I’m an experienced marriage celebrant and I’ll never forget the time I was about to start Steve* and Jodi’s* ceremony, and I popped into the room where they were waiting separately. Steve was pacing like a caged tiger, muttering about how he might faint. Jodi was close to tears, convinced she’d trip over her dress and faceplant in front of everyone. Wedding day jitters had officially hit!
But here’s the thing: the closer we got to the “I do’s,” the calmer they became. And the moment they locked eyes at the top of the aisle? All those nerves seemed to evaporate. They had each other, and that’s all that mattered.
Feeling a bit anxious before your wedding is completely normal. It’s a big day, filled with emotions, expectations, and maybe a touch of “what if I trip and fall?” But trust me, you’ve got this! Here’s your guide to conquering those wedding day jitters and enjoying every moment of your special day:
Why the Butterflies?
First things first, let’s normalise those pre-wedding jitters. Your wedding day is a momentous occasion, a celebration of love, commitment, and a whole new chapter in your lives. It’s natural to feel a mix of excitement, anticipation, and maybe a dash of “holy moly, this is really happening!” Embrace those butterflies – they’re a sign that you care deeply about this moment.
Taming the Butterflies: Practical Tips
Now, let’s talk about how to manage those nerves and channel them into positive energy. Here are a few tried-and-true techniques:
- Breathe Deep, Lovebirds: Deep breathing is your secret weapon against anxiety. Inhale slowly through your nose, exhale slowly through your mouth. Repeat until you feel your heart rate slowing and your mind calming.
- Mindfulness and Meditation: Take a few minutes each day to practise mindfulness or meditation. There are tons of apps and online resources to guide you. Even a few moments of quiet reflection can make a world of difference.
- Love is All Around: Surround yourself with the people who love and support you. Spend quality time with your partner, your family, and your closest friends. Their presence will remind you that you’re not alone in this.
- Sleep is Your Superpower: Get a good night’s sleep in the days leading up to the wedding. A well-rested mind and body are better equipped to handle stress.
- Delegate Like a Boss: Don’t try to do everything yourself! Delegate tasks to your wedding party, family, or friends. Sharing the load will lighten your mental burden.
- Say No to the Jitters Juice: Avoid excessive caffeine or alcohol in the hours before the ceremony. These substances can amplify anxiety and make it harder to stay grounded.
Shifting Your Mindset
Sometimes, it’s all about perspective. Here are a few mindset shifts that can help you conquer those nerves:
- Remember the “Why”: Focus on the love you share with your partner. This day is about celebrating your connection and embarking on a new adventure together.
- Embrace Imperfection: Things might not go exactly as planned, and that’s okay! In fact, those little imperfections often make the day even more memorable.
- Visualise Calm: Close your eyes and visualise your ceremony unfolding calmly and joyfully. Imagine yourself smiling, laughing, and feeling completely present in the moment.
- Gratitude is the Attitude: Take a moment to appreciate the love and support surrounding you. Feel grateful for your partner, your family, your friends, and everyone who’s come to celebrate with you.
The Celebrant’s Role: Your Calm in the Storm
As your celebrant, I’m not just there to officiate the ceremony. I’m also there to support you and help you feel at ease. I’ve witnessed countless couples navigate their wedding day jitters, and I’ve learned a thing or two about creating a calming atmosphere and providing reassurance when it’s needed most.
From our initial meeting to the moment you say “I do,” I’ll be there to answer your questions, offer guidance, and remind you to breathe and enjoy the journey.
You’ve Got This!
Remember, those pre-wedding jitters are just a sign of how much this day means to you. Embrace the excitement, trust in the love you share, and know that you have a whole team of people (including your awesome celebrant!) cheering you on.
Ready to create a wedding day that’s filled with joy, laughter, and maybe just a few happy tears? Let’s chat!
Kerstyn xx
Photo by John Benavente
*Names have been changed to protect the privacy of the couple.
** The above photo is NOT the couple this article is about. But they ARE a couple who were married by Kerstyn and who LOVED it.
